Tell Gina what keeps happening.
Gina helps you make sense of what you’re experiencing, what may be going on underneath it, and the kinds of work people often explore. Free. No diagnosis. Nothing you share is saved.
Start with what keeps happening
Common places to start. Each page gives more than one possible reason, never a single answer.
- People pleasing: why I do it and how to stopPeople-pleasing is saying yes when you mean no, and different rules can produce it, which is why the same behavior needs different answers in different people.
- Overthinking after conversations: why I replay themOverthinking a conversation afterward may be a search for what you got wrong, who you upset, or what one person now thinks of you.
- Why do I feel like a burden?Feeling like a burden can come from a rule that your needs are too much, that your place depends on being useful, or that struggling must not show.
- Why do I feel guilty when I rest?Feeling guilty when you rest may mean worth has been tied to producing, though needing to stay ahead, to be needed or one person's approval can do the same.
- Why do I self-sabotage when things are going well?Self-sabotage often comes right after something goes well, and it may guard against losing the good thing later or against owing for it.
- Why do I need everyone to like me?Needing everyone to like you may be about nobody being upset with you, about being picked, or about one person whose opinion is behind all the others.
- Why do I keep dating the same type of person?If you keep dating the same type of person, the same rule may come along each time, and needing to be chosen, keeping the peace or being right can each do it.
- Anxious attachment: why I need to know where I standAnxious attachment is when closeness feels shaky unless you keep checking. Here's what it may be protecting, and one question that helps tell.
- Years of therapy and still stuck? Here's whyAfter years of therapy, you may still be stuck because the therapy was aimed at the problem you could see.
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Tell Gina what keeps happening. She'll name the pattern, point you to what to read, and show the kinds of work people explore for it.
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